What would a New Year be without resolutions? Actually, resolutions don't need to happen right at the New Year, but I think we are remiss to allow a year to go by without giving some thought to where we've been and where we're going. I have some friends that do it around their birthdays or other prominent dates in their lives.
I did not do so well with my resolutions last year. I made too many to keep up with AND I let even the manageable ones fall to the wayside because I didn't keep those goals in front of me. The ones I met, I met by accident.
But now it's 2015. New Year, New Leaf is what I'm saying. My New Year Resolution list could alternately be titled "Kick 30's Butt". :)
Here are some of my goals for 2015.
Say "How about you?": Last year I added more "pleases" and "thank yous" into my vocabulary. This year I'd like to add more "how about yous" and things like that. I always want to be a good friend and a good listener and to care for others more. So my goal is to never let a conversation completely center on me. When someone asks me about my day, my weekend, my plans, etc, I plan to give them an appropriate-for-the-conversation answer (I tend to be long-winded and an over-sharer) and finish with a question back to them. I feel there's no better way to get to know someone better than to ask them about the things that matter to them. It's about courtesy, but it's even more about connection and letting people know they matter to me.
Say "Yes?": If I have one struggle in my life, it's having patience and giving grace to my family. So this year (and I've already started) when someone is calling my name, I don't want to respond with "What?" or, even worse (but all too common), "WHAT?!". I am going to respond with, "Yes?". I think it is a simple way to give affirmation to my family, to set the tone that what they're about to say will be received and not rejected before they can speak, that their talking to me is not an inconvenience. I can see that this is truth in the look on my 3.5 year old daughter's face when I answer her.
Do Something Healthy: I know that health goals are hackneyed for New Year's Resolutions, but I have one anyway. I would like to lose some weight (20 pounds if I can), but more than that I'd like to get stronger and feel better. I frequently find myself worn out and feeling blah and I'm over that. We got a Nutribullet for Christmas and have started drinking smoothies for breakfast. My Mom and Aunt swear by them (they've been doing it for several months and have both lost weight and report feeling more energetic and physically better). I think Nora would have a smoothie for every meal if we'd let her! I just started today drinking Matcha. It's powdered green tea leaves. One 2-ounce swig each morning gives all the good stuff of about 10 cups of steeped green tea. It tastes kind of gross (call it an "acquired taste"...that sounds nicer), very Japanese/Sushi/Seaweed-like. I also like that because of...something...in it the caffeine is delivered evenly over several hours which prevents the jitters/crash that I get from coffee. It's science. I also plan to do the Chicago Triathlon Super-Sprint later this year. Don't think I'm crazy or all hard-core...it's something like 1/4 mile swim, 8 mile bike and 1.5 mile run. I will have to do a little training for it (I couldn't run 1.5 miles without stopping even if zombies were chasing me), but I think it will be fun and very rewarding! My sister is planning to do it also, and I'm hoping Zach will, too.
Practice God's Presence: I have been in on the "Not A Fan" movement since the very beginning, and I've been learning and growing over 2014, but I still feel like something is missing. As I look at my life, I think that missing piece is communion with God. I want to carve out some quiet time to connect with God. Right now I'm going to try several things and see what works well and then make a commitment to it.
Experiences Over Things: It is SO hard for me not to pick up that little toy, book, item, whatever for my kids every time I see it. But while giving a gift is rewarding in the moment (for both parties), experiences and time spent are so much more valuable. This comes in the form of playing a game one-on-one with Nora, or taking Judah outside even when I don't feel like it. It also looks like letting my kids take their time putting on clothes or packing a bag or doing a task even though I could help them or do it myself and get it done much faster. It looks like redirecting my money away from buying "stuff" and toward doing things--bowling, ice skating, camping. It looks like re-allotting my time to make space for all these things.
Be A Champion For My Husband: This looks like speaking to and about him with respect. It's relating with him using his love language. It's praying for him. It's encouraging him and being a help mate. It includes the above-mentioned goals of answering with "Yes?" and asking "How about you?". It's putting him before the kids (which benefits the kids, too, in the long run). It's also keeping him in the loop on what's going on in my life schedule-wise, emotionally and spiritually.
So those are my goals. It looks like a lot written down, but I think it can be done. How am I doing kicking 30's butt? I think it'll result in a better me all around and having some great experiences under my belt. In October I'll be able to ring in 31 with no regrets.
So, how about you? When do you set goals? Do you have plans for 2015?